the equation
Kai is starting to relent from his absolute infatuation with Erin. Not to say that the sight of me first thing in the morning doesn't send him running to momma, but it's not quite as quickly nowadays.
I read an op-ed in the Sentinel the other day about what's happening to our kids. The gist of the piece was what's happening to our kids is their parents. Or, the lack of parenting. And it's something I've noticed over the past two years of being a parent.
A lot of parents are just unconscious. They don't like the situation they're in, whether it's their kids' behavior, or whatever. But they don't change how they're being about it. But it's a simple equation. If A is the parenting, and B is the kids, then A plus B always equals result C. But if you change the A in the least, then the resulting C, must be different. So if you don't like the results you're getting in life or in parenting, you must change the way you're being, and the end result of the equation will be different.
Does that make sense? It seems like a simple concept to me, but perhaps I'm not explaining it well enough. Your comments are welcome.
On another note, we deposited our settlement check today. Of course, considering all 76 cents we had in the joint account, the bank put a hold on the deposit. And yet Erin and I are definitely looking forward to getting caught up and back to square one. We are finally starting to see the bubbles break the surface.
I read an op-ed in the Sentinel the other day about what's happening to our kids. The gist of the piece was what's happening to our kids is their parents. Or, the lack of parenting. And it's something I've noticed over the past two years of being a parent.
A lot of parents are just unconscious. They don't like the situation they're in, whether it's their kids' behavior, or whatever. But they don't change how they're being about it. But it's a simple equation. If A is the parenting, and B is the kids, then A plus B always equals result C. But if you change the A in the least, then the resulting C, must be different. So if you don't like the results you're getting in life or in parenting, you must change the way you're being, and the end result of the equation will be different.
Does that make sense? It seems like a simple concept to me, but perhaps I'm not explaining it well enough. Your comments are welcome.
On another note, we deposited our settlement check today. Of course, considering all 76 cents we had in the joint account, the bank put a hold on the deposit. And yet Erin and I are definitely looking forward to getting caught up and back to square one. We are finally starting to see the bubbles break the surface.
Labels: parenting, settlement
posted by wine daddy at
10:26 PM
2 Comments:
i think a good start for parents that want different results from their relationship with their children is being truly in the moment with them. when you're not wishing things were different and you just take what comes, it becomes a joyful experience.
Congratulations on the settlement, I hope your condition is constantly improvement.
Regarding the parenting equation, you are spot on. Becoming a parent changed me fundamentally in fortifying many of my philosophies and squaring things up in order create a positive environment for my kids. The result is absolutely a product of the two sources. Enjoy this day!
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